7 Things Not To Tell Your Friends About Your Relationship

7. Sex

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hat happens in the bedroom, should stay in the bedroom. Never, and I mean NEVER, let out your intimacy. Details to your friends. It’s not only bad if your partner gets to hear it from someone else, it’s just embarrassing. No one wants you to tell them how good or bad the sex is, keep it in the bedroom, only you can make your friends respect your partner and the intimate details should be kept from even the closest of friends.

6. Fights

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We all want to go talk to someone when we are down and sad. But it’s probably not a good idea to tell your friends about your fights, you two will be fine in a few days but your friends will remember the fights and tell you about the fights every now and then. Couples fight, it’s normal, keep it between the two of you, you can’t trust your friends with the fights you have with your partner. If it’s really that serious, go see a therapist. Anything is better than letting your relationship be an open book to the world!

5. Money Issues
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Like I said, only you can make your friends respect your partner. The more you talk bad about them behind their backs, the more it gets difficult for you in the future. If your partner is going through some money issues, don’t go telling your friends about it. Not only will it make you seem cheap, it will forever make you seem like a gold digger. Whatever it is, talk it out with your partner and not the rest of the world.
4. Their Personal Problems
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Never discuss their personal life issues with your friends in hopes of getting some positive input on things. If something bad happens in your partner’s family, keep it to yourself because they trusted you with that information and they think you’ll keep it to yourself. If they somehow find out you told others about them, you might never be trusted again.
3. Their Past Relationships
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Never discuss your partner’s past relationships with your friends, it will only lead to ridicule and negativity. Whatever they told you, they told you in confidence hands and they knew it will only stay with you, don’t break their trust by telling others about it. Only you can make your partner trust you more and you hold that power on your hands as long as you stay quiet about their personal details with others.
2. Complaints
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If things seem a bit off about your relationship, don’t go off complaining to your friends. If you do this a little too often, your friends will start telling you to leave the person because they see how sad and miserable you are with them. Whatever problems you’re facing with them, talk to your partner about them and don’t go complaining to your friends.
1. Comparing
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Unless you want your friends to think negatively about your partner, don’t compare them to others in front of your friends. We all go through ups and downs in relationships, it doesn’t mean you run off crying to your friends about how your ex was so much better. These kind of things don’t go away, they usually travel to your partner somehow and it hurts them when they get to know how badly you talk about them and how little you try to make your friends respect them.
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7 Positive Things About Long Distance Relationship

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Believe it or not, there are a few positive things about a long distance relationship. Let’s face it ladies, as much as you love your man, being apart can break a relationship. Having spent the first three years of my current relationship apart, and the next three years living together, I feel that I’ve learnt a few positive things about a long distance relationship that may help you get through it!

1. FRIENDSHIP

The foundation of any solid relationship is a strong friendship, and this is one of the positive things about a long distance relationship. If you can’t see each other face to face for a few weeks, you are forced to get to know each other as friends much quicker than you would otherwise. What I mean by this is the physicality and the physical attraction doesn’t get all attention and you learn much quicker if you’re compatible.

2. COMMUNICATION

Being long distance opens the lines of communication which can only be a positive thing. Now of course, not all communication is good, and this will inevitably include some blazing rows (and don’t I know it!) But once again, not being face to face forces you to talk things through beyond the heat of the moment, be if on the phone, in written form or even Skype.

3. KEEPS IT FRESH

Despite all the frustrations of missing your man, being long distance can keep it fresh. Those butterflies in your stomach for the first few months are one of the best parts of a new relationship – and, in a way, long distance maintains this! Every time you meet, that excitement of those first few dates happens all over again. On the flip side, the nerves can also come back, but again – isn’t that part of the fun?

4. TRUST

This probably should have appeared first on my list as it is such an important part of a relationship and it’s only enhanced by distance. Too often, couples who become conjoined from day one fall into the trap of mistrust. We all know of couples who check each other’s phones, emails, social media and so on. (Sidebar – would you read someone’s diary? I’m not sure how someone’s personal conversations are any different…) A good thing about long distance relationships is that you can’t possibly know exactly what your man is up to and where he is or who he’s talking to all the time and you both have the freedom and the right to live your own lives. If you’re happy with this you have trust! And when the distance is no longer an issue, this trust and respect for each other’s right continues long after. Yay!

5. “DISTANCE” IS A COP OUT

If your relationship means enough, you work for it. I don’t believe in flogging a dead horse, but if your relationship is that important, you don’t fall at the first hurdle either. I always think if “distance” is stated as a reason for a break up, it’s probably a cop-out and the relationship wasn’t right. This is a good thing – no one should be in a relationship because of habit, and this cop-out may save a lot of tears in the future!

6. BEST OF BOTH WORLDS

Being long distance allows you to have the best of both worlds – the security of a relationship and the freedom of being single. You have the freedom to go out with your friends, follow your career, go weeks without shaving your legs…But you can also pick up the phone for a giggle, have romantic weekends and have that confidence that a relationship gives you.

7. COOLING OFF

When it comes to flying off the handle and saying things in a temper, I am guilty as charged. Whilst many of our long distance blow-ups came from the stress of missing each other, miscommunication and not being able to read body language – distance was also a saving grace. Where face to face I’d perhaps sulk or strop (I’m not all bad, honest!) when long distance, I was forced to take time to contemplate.

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Author: Ceri Clarke

7 WAYS TO TREAT A SENSITIVE GUY

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There is something to be said about dating a sensitive guy compared to a macho man. How we come off to a sensitive guy is completely different. Things we typically say that we wouldn’t even second guess, could make him go crazy. Games we usually play with boys don’t work on them. Most normal behaviors we are used to when it comes to men go out the window when dealing with a sensitive guy. Today I’m going to share with you 7 ways to treat a sensitive guy.

1. MAKE HIM FEEL SECURE

This is the first and most important thing to know on how to treat a sensitive guy. They can be some of the most insecure guys you are going to meet and it will either be an endearing quality or a soon to be major turn off. Either way, don’t be afraid to turn all your rules off when it comes to letting a guy know how you feel. I’m not saying to over bear him, but he does need to know you are interested more then unusual.

2. CAN’T PLAY TOO HARD TO GET

I am queen of playing too hard to get and I recently experienced that it doesn’t work well with sensitive guys. I asked my most sensitive guy friends how they would feel in two different scenarios with their partner; A: the partner being hard to get, and B: their partner being more vulnerable and open. All of them chose scenario B, and said it was because they would feel the most secure and confident and enjoy the fact the girl is showing she is into him. If a girl plays too hard to get with a sensitive guy he will either think she isn’t that into him or get over the game really fast. So girls this is the one time I will let you know; don’t ignore him, don’t make him wait forever to see you, and don’t come off cold. He is going to be a mirror for you, so why not show him what you would like to be shown

3. DON’T GIVE HIM AN OUT

One of the many things we do as women is give a guy an out when we ask to see him as a defense mechanism for our self esteem. For example I’ll tell a guy, “I’ll text you later and see where you’re at, but if you’re too tired or not down to hang out I totally get it.” First off, we should be confident enough to not have to give ourselves an out, but if we do it’s no big deal, we are human. Second, non sensitive guy would hear this and think, “Cool she’s not needy and she goes with the flow”. A sensitive guy takes this as you giving yourself an out because you don’t actually want to see him. He’ll think you are saying, “I’m too tired, or I’m not down to hang out”. Sensitive guys like to switch everything around because they aren’t secure in where they stand with you. They think you are the one who doesn’t want to see them when in actuality you are as nervous as he is! Be confident and sweet. Try telling the guy that you would like to see him, no matter how scary or uncomfortable it is. This is a key point in how to treat a sensitive

4. DON’T TRY TO MAKE HIM JEALOUS

Some sensitive guys already have enough insecurity issues that if you try to make them jealous you could just be making them feel even more low. All it’s going to do is turn him off rather than on. Instead, make him feel like he is the only man in the room and give him that encouragement that he needs. Let him know that you find him sexy and intriguing. Be there for him and in return he is going to treat you the same. His attention is all on you so be sure that yours is all on him.

5. STAY CONNECTED IN BED

When being intimate with a sensitive man it is important to really stay connected with him. Whether it’s just placing your hand on his chest or touching his leg, after you fool around make him feel good by touching him. They want to feel reassured you are okay and that you enjoyed what just went down. Most men are going to be clear if they want to stay and cuddle or if they are ready to end the night. Read what kind of signs your guy is giving you and take charge in what you want. Try not to get too awkward and quiet after, for some people with a fear of intimacy this can be difficult, but having a sensitive guy in your bed can help you work through that fear. Connection is an important way to treat a sensitive guy, so give your man that attention in bed that will satisfy you both.

6. KEEP IT SIMPLE

As most of you girls who read my articles know, I am a big advocate of some game playing. However, when it comes to sensitive guys the best tactic is to keep it simple. The clearer the communication the better with sensitive guys because all the games just seem to confuse them. The more confused the more distant they become because it just makes them feel insecure and inferior. Who wants to feel like that? Some of the best things you can do are; let him know how you are feeling, shower him with compliments, and be black and white on your motives. If you want to hang out, tell him. If you don’t like something that is going on between the two of you, for example the way he communicates with you, let him know. Most of these guys just need to be told. Don’t worry, it’s not going to scare them off. Although, you shouldn’t sound like an annoying and demanding girl either, but be clear about you want or don’t want. More then likely he’ll appreciate it.

7. MAKE THE MOVES

I’m going to give you a heads up that more often than not you’re going to need to be the first one to make a move. Not because this cute guy doesn’t want you, trust me, but it’s because he is too scared. Stupid rejection gets in these sensitive guys’ ways all the time. Depending on the situation, tell him you want to kiss him or just go for it! He’s going to let you do what you want to do and not push you either. Let him be passionate and make you feel amazing because he definitely wants to. When it comes to intimacy and getting your sexual desires on, you’re going to have to make the move.

All of these ways to treat a sensitive guy are here to help you see what it’s like from their point of view. We as women have to put ourselves out there more and be more vulnerable which is always scary, but hopefully reading these reasons will create a clear perspective into why we need to do that. If you have never dated a sensitive guy I will be the first to tell you it’s a whole other experience. Try these tips out and if it doesn’t work out at least you gave it a chance. What other ways have you found that work when dating a sensitive guy?

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