Qualifies Men Want Most in a Woman

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Here are some more
defining features of a
dream girl.

A Dream Girl Has
Boundaries

A man cannot love or truly
care for a woman unless
he respects her, it just
won’t happen.

And a man cannot
genuinely respect a
woman who will put up
with anything.

While in theory men would
love to get away with
everything, in reality, there
is nothing interesting or
appealing about that kind
of relationship and he will
either get bored or take
advantage of you.

A lot of women are afraid to
be firm in their convictions
because they don’t want to
seem demanding or needy
(which is funny because
only needy people
compromise on what they
want).

Bending over backwards
for a guy and letting him
get away with treating
you badly because you
don’t want to seem like a
nag will guarantee more
bad behavior, and
eventually, it will take a big
hit on your sense of worth.

So figure out what you
want and what you won’t
compromise on. And don’t
be afraid to walk away
when he doesn’t give you
what you know you
deserve.

It’s only when you’re not
afraid to walk away that
he’ll do anything to make
you stay.

A Dream Girl Brings Out
His Best

Okay this one is tricky, but
it’s a biggie. A lot of the
time, women get caught up
in turning a guy into what
they want him to be rather
than helping him become
his best self.

Men can sense when a
woman is trying to
change or control them
and it isn’t motivating, it’s
crippling and defeating.

It makes him feel like a
failure and as a result, he’ll
go in the opposite direction.

In any relationship, it’s
imperative to accept the
other person for who
they are, this means
embracing the good and
accepting the bad.

The worst thing you can do
is try and turn him into
what you need him to be. It
may sound crazy, but
women do this all the time,
I used to be one of them!

Let’s say you’re trying to get
him to be more emotionally
supportive, more sensitive,
more affectionate.

I mean, all these things are
great, but if you’re doing it
to feed your own ego
and to placate your own
fears, then he will feel
pressured and will go in
the opposite direction.

A dream girl doesn’t force
him to be anything, she
accepts him as he is and
since she is so accepting
and appreciative, he
becomes a better man and
a better boyfriend,
completely on his own.

A dream girl brings her best
self to the table and knows
by doing this, she will bring
out his best self.

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A Dream Girl Looks Like
Success

Women place greater
value connections and
relationships, men are
more focused on
achievement and success.

A man will always want to
invest in success, it’s a
universal that manifests in
many areas of a man’s life.

This is why men feel so
devastated when their
favorite sports team loses
and why they’re so
inexplicably exhilarated
when the team wins.

(I never understood this
one, I mean they’re not
being paid millions of
dollars to win the game, so
what do they care?!)

This also explains why
men seek physical
perfection in a partner way
more than women.

A woman can easily get
past looks and see who a
guy is within, we’ve all
seen or been in one of
those gorgeous girl and
average guy relationships.

This kind of thing doesn’t
come as easily to men
because they are
inherently oriented toward
success.

This model can be used to
explain my men like
women with good bodies.
Think about it, a good
figure is a representation
of success on an external
level; it represents hard
work and results.

Does a dream girl need the
perfect figure? I mean, she
should take care of herself
and be healthy, but she
doesn’t need
Gisele Bundchen’s
measurements.

A dream girl looks like
success, meaning, she
puts herself together and
carries herself in a strong
and confident way.

Let me paint a picture. Let’s
say you had a hard day,
one of those days where
you’re running around and
everything feels scattered.

Your boyfriend comes over
and you’re in your stained
sweats with your hair in a
disheveled mess and
makeup smudged from
crying.

You could have changed
but didn’t really want to
because you think looking
like a mess will earn you
more sympathy points
which is all you really want.

Will your boyfriend dump
you on the spot and run
away? No.

It’s just not exactly the
scenario he wants to
come home to because
it is in strong opposition
to his desire to invest
in success.

Plus, you want him to
empathize with you, not
pity you.

A dream girl puts herself
together because it makes
her feel good and it makes
her man feel significant.

When he feels significant,
he feels successful, when
he feels successful, he
feels inspired and
motivated to be at his best.

This isn’t just about the
physical. Men never
respond well when women
come at them from a place
of extreme emotion.

The most effective way to
deal with a man is always to
be calm, clear and objective.

Men listen to reason, not
emotion
. Remember this
and you’ll find conflict
resolution in your
relationship becomes
effortless.

Alright, dream girls, that’s
all for now.

Resources

Sabrina Alexis, A New Mode

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